Expectations..

"Nothing hurts more than when your expectations are unfulfilled."
Expectations.
The word, as simple as it seems is all the more complicated.
It is a belief regarding your future which is more unlikely to happen. The unlikelyness of it to happen triggers another emotion i.e. disappointment. The disappointment in turn triggers all other kinds of emotions depending on its intensity.

"Anger always comes from frustrated expectations" - Elliott Larson

Expectations of your parents. Expectations of your spouse/boy-girlfriend. Expectations of your friends.  Expectations of Dada,Nana,Chacha etc., the list goes on. You spend your life trying to fulfill them. And when you fail, the whole world is against you. And you stand there alone pondering over what just happened. Why all of them are behaving so strangely now. Why are you the villain now.

And there is another kind of Expectation. The one which you want from others. You too have expectations from yourself. You too have expectations from your parents, your spouse etc. And when they remain unfulfilled, it creates a huge sense of hollowness in you. The feeling is the worst. You cry your eyes out. Your smile is lost in the broadway. You feel like you are vulnerable, You are week!

The question is, if so many kinds of troubles arise because of this then why not kill it. Why not just uproot the problem! But the hindrance is, you are a human. A normal human being who is very different from animals because of such emotions. Killing it is impossible. So why not control it. But here is another hindrance. If you could control it then you would be sitting on some Himalaya mountain by now, isn't it? You would be a saint who has won over all his emotions.

So what the heck is the solution now?!

Being indifferent.
But ain't Indifference as tough as the above two. It is tough. But not as tough.

"Ignorance is bliss" - Thomas Gray.
The quote says, Be ignorant. What you don't know won't hurt you. And how you wouldn't know? When you ignore.
Ignore the bubble. Ignore what others expect of you. Ignore what you expect from others.
And boom!


I can see a smile. :-)

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I Gotta Excel!

From long I've been thinking what to write on, as it's been long since I last wrote something on this blog. It's not that all the topics to write on just vanquished, but actually I was not confident enough to write up on them. Every time I started to write on a new topic or continue the left over ones, I just couldn't go forward after writing a few lines. I felt like I didn't have the capability to write anything more, my mind would just go numb and my pen would get hostile like it doesn't even belong to me. Its been a while since this hide-n-seek game is going on with me and this blog of mine, and in this process I actually have a pile of the 'drafts' now, they being more than the number of posts published.

So wasn't it the urge to excel that was hindering my way to write on or was it me being too low on confidence. And if I was too low on confidence then isn't it also indirectly implying the same first reason I just wrote i.e. the urge to excel, was the cause of it?

When a baby is born, people hover around him all the time and the baby thinks, " Wow! What an awesome place this world is! My life is going to be fun!". As he grows up, he witnesses the no. of hovers decreasing. A point comes when he needs to strive with the odds to get those people back to hover around him like when he was born.
How? He needs to excel! He needs to prove himself to the shallow world that who he is. Who asked him to? The People who care more about the hay they can bitch about than him. But he doesn't realize this simple fact that if they cared about him then why would they ever ask him to prove in the first place!
Now Why on earth does he even need to? The answer to that one is simpler and each human being right from a 6-year old kid to a 60-year old man can answer it because they all have seen its bitter face. The answer is the mere fact that he is HUMAN. The first line in the first chapter of a Civics book says, "Man is a social animal". So to live-up to it, to make this phrase hold its sanctity, he works harder and harder for it because it defines him who he is.He was given a name by his parents when he was born, so now like a King of a State he needs to expand his horizon.
He needs to Excel!

Being the top notch is scrumptious and for that you need to keep feeding your Leptin. And for that you need to excel!


Well, I tried to excel too. Maybe I won, maybe I lost but what matters more is that I tried to. I tried to be a part of this crazy world too. But whatever happened, happened for the good I guess.

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